Ever been told to completely ignore your dog when you get home to stop them jumping up? It's probably the most common advice out there, but did you know it might actually make the problem worse? As someone who's not only trained countless dogs but also lives with a chronic jumper (I'm looking at you, Dave), I've got some thoughts to share that might just change how you view this common challenge.
The problem with the 'ignore' approach
Imagine you've been out all day and when you walk through the door, your family completely blanks you. How do you feel? A bit miffed? Perhaps you try even harder to get their attention - maybe wave your hand in front of their phone or make a silly joke? Our dogs aren't so different.
When we ignore them, they often try harder and harder to get our attention. They might jump higher, bark more or get even more excited. It's like they're saying, "Hello? Anyone there? I'm trying my absolute best to say hi!" And, of course, eventually we usually give in and give them attention, which teaches them that persistence pays off. Tomorrow, they'll try even longer!
Size matters - but should it?
Before going any further, let’s address a simple truth - the dog world can be a bit sizeist. When a tiny Yorkshire Terrier jumps up, it's often seen as cute and endearing. But when my 40kg Labrador does the same thing? Not so much. While it's true that bigger dogs can be more overwhelming when they jump, the principle of teaching good manners should apply to all dogs, whatever their size.
A different approach: what do we want?
Instead of focusing on what we don't want (the jumping), let's think about what we
do want. In my experience, it's perfectly fine for dogs to be excited when we come home - it's actually one of the best parts of dog ownership! The key is teaching them how to express that excitement appropriately.
My rule is simple. You can have all the attention in the world but your feet must stay on the floor. This way:
- Dogs learn they get attention by being calm
- We still get to enjoy that lovely greeting
- Everyone's emotional needs are met
- The excitement naturally dissipates more quickly
Practical Solutions
For those times when excitement levels are through the roof (like when you've been out for ages), my top tip is to keep some high-value treats by the door. In my house, we keep pig's ears in the porch for those occasions. It's not training - it's management. And sometimes that's exactly what we need.
For visitors who aren't keen on dogs (yes, these people exist!) try these approaches:
- Put your dog on a lead before opening the door
- Use a stair gate to create a barrier
- Give visitors clear instructions about how to interact with your dog
- Create a specific greeting spot or routine
The Reality Check
Your dog won't simply 'grow out of' jumping up so we need to show them what we'd like them to do instead. Create the situations where they can get it right rather than constantly telling them off for getting it wrong.
Remember, there's nothing wrong with giving your dog attention when you come home. The key is teaching them how to receive that attention appropriately. A quick "hello" and fuss when they're calm isn't going to create separation anxiety - it's about finding that sweet spot between acknowledging their excitement and encouraging calm behaviour.
So next time you come home, try giving your dog attention before they demand it - but only when all their feet are on the floor. You might be surprised at how quickly they learn that calm greetings get the best response.
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